Patrick Michael McCarthy

  • Born: November 5, 1934
  • Died: February 14, 2017
  • Location: Indian Wells, California

FitzHenry-Wiefels Palm Desert

44-700 San Pablo Avenue
Palm Desert, CA 92260
Tel. (760) 568-9481

Tribute & Message From The Family

Longtime Indian Wells resident Patrick McCarthy (82) died February 4, 2017 at his home with his loving wife at his side. His passing was due to complication from cancer and a virus infection.

Patrick was born in Los Angeles on November 5, 1934. He moved with his family to New York in 1938 and spent the next 60 years there. Patrick served in the United States Navy before representing Merrill Lynch at the New York Stock Exchange. He retired in 1996 and he and his wife moved to California.

Patrick is lovingly remembered for an unfailingly courteous attitude and with a disarmingly quick wit and storytelling. He was always ready with jokes and anecdotes to cause smiles to all around him. He was passionate about his wife Edeltraud, his Irish heritage, classic cars, playing Bridge, and philanthropic giving to so many worthy and deserving causes; among them are Desert Arc, COD, Health Family Foundation, The Living Desert, Loma Linda, Deerfield Academy, McCallum Theatre, Desert Symphony, Olive Crest and many others.

Patrick leaves behind his wife, Edeltraud; daughter and two sons: Michele, Patrick, and Brian, all of New York; and three grandchildren; Michael, Sean and Ryan.

A Celebration of Life to honor Patrick is planned for 10:00am Wednesday, February 22, at Saint Francis of Assisi, 47225 Washington St., La Quinta.
In lieu of flowers, please make a donation in Patrick's name to Desert Arc.
FitzHenry-Wiefels Palm Desert has been entrusted with arrangements.


Condolence & Memory Journal

Just learned today about Pat's passing! Would like to send condolences and prayers out to his family!

Had helped Pat with the powerplant in his '69 roadrunner back in 1986, really a true "gentleman". I met both his sons at the time also!

Gary Sharkey & family!

Posted by Gary Sharkey - Friend   June 21, 2020


So sorry to hear of Patrick's Mom worked with him along with his father getting the McCallum Theater going.... we had so many fun times in the desert & Hawaii....he was a funny generous man and will be so missed...Edeltraud, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family....

Posted by Pamela Reese - Salinas, CA   March 10, 2017

Me and Cliff are so saddened by the loss of this kind and generous man. I loved all of his stories while I would cut his hair.

Posted by Ralph Malani - Honolulu, HI   March 03, 2017

My thoughts and prayers go out to Patrick's family, Edeltraud, Patrick, Brian and Michelle.
Patrick was a one of a kind. A very generous and genuine man who had a heart of gold.
I was fortunate to know him as a donor to College of the Desert Foundation and many desert charities.
He will be sorely missed.

Posted by Cheryl Bardowell - Yucaipa, CA   February 22, 2017

One of the great, full of life people whom I had the honor of getting to know here in the Coachella Valley. You will be missed.

Posted by Haddon Libby - Indian Wells, CA   February 22, 2017

I am very sorry to hear of your loss. Patrick had a heart full of joy and compassion, and a desire to make a difference in the community he lived in. My sincere condolences to you and your family.
COD-McCarthy Family Child Development & Training Center.

Posted by Christine Nickoli - Palm Desert, CA   February 22, 2017

Das Schönste,
was ein Mensch hinterlassen kann,
ist ein Lächeln im Gesicht derjenigen,
die an Ihn denken.

Danke dass ich Dich kennen lernen durfte
herzlichen Dank für alles

in silent remembrance

Posted by Helmut Steininger - Seuversholz/Germany   February 21, 2017

Vielen Dank für die schöne Zeit, die wir mit Dir verbringen durften.
Danke für alles, wir werden Dich immer in lieber Erinnerung behalten.
Ruhe in Frieden
Marika - Helmut - Jonas - Mia

Posted by Helmut Steininger - Seuversholz   February 21, 2017

Posted by Arlene Daugherty - Palm Desert, CA   February 20, 2017

So very, very sorry to get the news of Patrick's death. He and I go way, way back to our freshman dormitory at Deerfield in the Fall of 1949 - sixty-seven years ago. Neither of us was phi beta kappa so we were in a lot of small classes together as well as a dormitory. We were both at college in Providence in the '50s, he at PC and I at Brown so we occasionally did the town together! Pat was a legend on the Cross Country track at Deerfield and in my four years there I never saw him beaten. And that's how he earned his nickname The Flying Irishman. Sadly The Flying Irishman has won his last race, and we his Deerfield Academy Class of 1953 will never, ever forget our classmate Patrick. Deepest love and sympathy to you, Edeltraud, and your whole family from the Class of 1953 at Deerfield Academy - Hugh R. Smith

Posted by Hugh Smith - Southport, CT - classmate   February 20, 2017

Patrick Michael McCarthy, AKA ,The Flying Irishman Deerfield Academy Class of 1953.
My good friend, what a ride we had during those formative years. We beat all the odds makers and made it past 80+. I sent a text to God requesting that he take good care of you, as you have given so much, to so many, for the support of needy projects and institutions. You will be sorely missed by all those of us who cherished your deep friendship. My good friend, may you rest in peace, I'll catch you on the flip side.
. . .and to the McCarthy family, Edeltraud, Michele, Patrick, and Brian, our thoughts and prayers go out to you in the celebration of the life of a wonderful caring sole.

Tom R. Ragland
DA Class of 53

Posted by A friend   February 20, 2017

Wir sind traurig, aber auch dankbar, diesen wertvollen Menschen kennengelernt zu haben und werden ihn nie vergessen.
Ruhe in Frieden, Patrick -
Rest in Peace.

Heidi, Otto, Patrick, Marika, Gitti und Martina

Posted by Heidi Benz - Seuversholz   February 20, 2017

Vor vielen Jahren begegneten wir Patrick zum ersten Mal in unserem kleinen bayerischen Heimatdorf Seuversholz auf der Hochzeit unserer Nachbarn und Freunde Marika und Helmut.
Im März/April 2016 durften wir zu Gast sein in seiner Heimat, im wunderschönen Indian Wells.
Wir lernten Patrick kennen als stets liebenswerten, fröhlichen, hilfsbereiten und bescheidenen Menschen.
Wir verbrachten eine herrliche und unvergessliche Zeit im gastfreundlichen Haus der Familie McCarthy.
Wir sind traurig, aber auch dankbar, diesen wertvollen Menschen kennengelernt zu haben und werden ihn nie vergessen.
Ruhe in Frieden, Patrick -
Rest in Peace.

Heidi, Otto, Patrick, Marika, Gitti und Martina

Posted by Heidi Benz - Seuversholz   February 20, 2017


Posted by A friend   February 20, 2017

Posted by - family   February 19, 2017

My thoughts and prayers go out to the entire family.
He will be truly missed a great friend husband, father and grandfather.
Rest in peace my friend and may perpetual light always shine on you.

Posted by George Barrios - Las Vegas, NV - friend   February 19, 2017

Liebe Edeltraud.

Möchte dir mein herzliches Beileid aussprechen.
Gott schenke dir Trost u. Kraft für die kommende Zeit.

LG Ingeborg

Posted by Ingeborg Steininger - Germany   February 19, 2017

One day I saw Patrick on the street driving his amazing 1969 Plymouth Roadrunner convertible. I flagged him down and told him I was the founder and coordinator of the Hot Desert Mopars. Patrick started attending our meets with his beautiful Mopar, sporting a stuffed roadrunner on the windshield! He would say "It passes everything but the gas station..." He came to many of our meets and made friends with our fun little group. He brought a lot to the table - between his fun personality and his gorgeous Roadrunner. It was great seeing him at El Paseo Cruise Night as well.

Deepest condolences to Edie and his family and friends. Patrick will be missed for sure.

Susie Peat

Posted by A friend   February 18, 2017


My heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family. I will surely miss the presence of a truly lovable and kind person.

Posted by Jane Hoag - Loma Linda - friend   February 18, 2017