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“Barbara, I'm so sad. Especially for Gene, Dina and Greg. I know they miss you. I miss you. But I'm sure you are in the next place we go, which is a...Read More »
1 of 33 | Posted by: James Berlanti - Family

“Gene, I was so sorry to hear of Barbara's passing. It was an honor to know her and get to work with both you and her on the Museum Gala. My...Read More »
2 of 33 | Posted by: Debbie Green - Palm Desert, CA

“My sincerest condolences and love to the Berlanti Family & Friends. My Mother and I were so grateful to know such an extraordinary Woman. I am also...Read More »
3 of 33 | Posted by: Michele Lanfrank - Little Silver, NJ

“I only met Barbara once but the joy and warmth she showed this stranger made a lasting impression. It's said it's not what you SAY that matters...it...Read More »
4 of 33 | Posted by: Jon Bruno - Los Angeles, CA

“I was so blessed to have a friend in my life like Barbara. If you were lucky enough to know Barbara too, then you know what it's like to experience a...Read More »
5 of 33 | Posted by: Tindra Lanfrank - Little Silver, NJ

“Gene, My deepest sympathy to you and your family. May your fond memories bring you peace at this difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with...Read More »
6 of 33 | Posted by: Linda Buhler - Middlesex, NJ

“Gene--My deepest sympathies to you and your family during this difficult. You are in my thoughts and prayers. ”
7 of 33 | Posted by: Sharon Brown - Little Silver, NJ

“Dear Gene, We are all still trying to absorb the news that Barbara is gone. I cannot imagine the loss you all are feeling, and we send you...Read More »
8 of 33 | Posted by: Barbara Wolser - CV Repertory Theatre - CA

“A wonderful person, so sorry to hear about her passing. She had a great spirit and was truly devoted to her family. We shared may a laugh working...Read More »
9 of 33 | Posted by: Joe Cox - Rye, NY - friend

“My sincere condolences to the Berlanti family. Barbara was a blessing in the lives of everyone who knew her. You are in my thoughts and prayers. ”
10 of 33 | Posted by: Rene' Dell'Acqua - CA

“So sorry to hear that terribly sad news.Our thoughts and love are being sent to Gene and the family from London. ”
11 of 33 | Posted by: Susan Canavan - Friend

“Good times we had at Frans nail salon.Barbra rest in peace. Gene,Dina,and Greg and family I am sorry for your lost. ”
12 of 33 | Posted by: fran gambacorta - south salem, NY

“The charisma of Barbara's personality was a force of nature, and that magical spark of hers will always live on in our hearts. It was an honor to...Read More »
13 of 33 | Posted by: Toni Ackermann - Palm Desert, CA

“Gene,My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time...Barbara is at peace and will be remembered for her warmth,...Read More »
14 of 33 | Posted by: Nancy Giuliano - Palm Desert, CA

“Barbara and I worked together at Rye Country Day School in the 1980's. She was a delight in that she was always positive, funny, feisty and...Read More »
15 of 33 | Posted by: James Godfrey - Portland, OR

“May you Rest In Peace - we wish you and the family courage during this difficult and sad time. ”
16 of 33 | Posted by: Cass Graff-Radford - CA

“Dear Gene, Greg and Dina,My sincere condolences on the loss of Barbara. When my mother passed, a very good and spiritual friend gave me a card with...Read More »
17 of 33 | Posted by: Glenn Connolly - New York, NY

“DEARLY DEEPLY LOVED AND REMEMBERED FOREVER ”
18 of 33 | Posted by: mary Louise Lawson - Los Angeles, CA

“To the berlanti family my heart felt condolences may god bless this family and wrap his arms around each of you ”
19 of 33 | Posted by: Terri Harden - Friend

“My sincere condolence in Barbara's passing! May her memory be a blessing. ”
20 of 33 | Posted by: Kim Tragerman - Palm Desert, CA

“I only had the privilege of meeting Barbara a few times, but thought she was a sweet and spectacular individual and wish to convey my condolences to...Read More »
21 of 33 | Posted by: Mark Anton - Palm Springs, CA

“Gene, I'm so very sorry to hear of Barbara's passing. We've known each other for many, many years and I feel saddened for you and your family....Read More »
22 of 33 | Posted by: Frank (Corky) Case - Alexandria, VA

“Barbara was such a kind woman. She has been a source of strength and positive hope for me. My heart breaks. What a beautiful woman, and may you...Read More »
23 of 33 | Posted by: Danielle Scardino - Palm Desert, CA

“It is with deep sadness in hearing the loss of your beloved wife, mother and grandmother. I pray that God gives you peace knowing that she is with...Read More »
24 of 33 | Posted by: Janice Conte - Clayton, NC

“Our prayers go out to all of you. Barbara was a beautiful, loving, friend inside and out. Fondly, Bill and Toni Johnson ”
25 of 33 | Posted by: Toni Johnson - Palm Desert, CA

“My deepest sympathies to the Berlanti family ”
26 of 33 | Posted by: Harry Walpole - St. Augustine, FL

“Gene, so heartbroken to hear about Barbara. She was such a lovely woman. My deepest sympathies to you and your family. ”
27 of 33 | Posted by: Laurie Mallory - Palm Desert, CA

“We wish we could be there with you. Well, maybe not in body but definitely in spirit. Really fond memories of Barbara and all she did for the RHS...Read More »
28 of 33 | Posted by: Neil Mendick - North Hero, VT

“Dear Gene, Dina and Greg,We were so heartbroken to hear of Barbara's death and send our most heartfelt condolences to your family. She was an amazing...Read More »
29 of 33 | Posted by: Debra Kay

“Barbara was truly one of a kind, always there for everyone. Beautiful, loving and always there for us! So fortunate for our time together ”
30 of 33 | Posted by: Judy Allen - Palm Desert, CA

“Please accept our condolences.Richard and Irene WalterFair Haven, New Jersey ”
31 of 33 | Posted by: Irene and Richard Walter - NJ

“Dear Berlanti Family,Your mother was an amazing woman. I enjoyed each and every time I was with her. She was such a source of strength for me when I...Read More »
32 of 33 | Posted by: Laura Landgrebe - Rancho Mirage, CA

“Barbara with tears in my eyes as I heard the news today, I will miss you. You were nothing but nice to me and my family. The last time I talked to...Read More »
33 of 33 | Posted by: Dorla Borland - Neptune, NJ


BARBARA ANN BERLANTI
January 18, 1945 - May 6, 2017
Barbara Ann Berlanti a proud mother, even more proud grandmother, loving, devoted though not very obedient wife, and friend to all she met died on May 6th due to complications from lung cancer.
Barbara Ann Moller was born in the Bronx to Bertha and John Moller. Though she left the Bronx as a young girl the Bronx never left her and Barbara carried a tough minded spirit with her all her days. That spirit was eclipsed only by her warmth, her stylish and dignified composure, her maternal nature and her compassion toward others.
As a girl she lived with her parents and her young brother John for a short time in Hewitt, Long Island and New Rochelle before her family finally settled in Rye, N.Y. where Barbara attended Rye High School. It was at Rye High that Barbara made some of her dearest and lifelong friends, danced many a lindy at the local sockhop, was voted most beautiful in her class of 1962, allegedly turned down an offer to pose in Playboy, and fell madly in love with a handsome, somewhat reserved, athletic young man two years her senior, Gene Berlanti.
Barbara and Gene were married in August of 1963 and stayed married for the next 53 years. During that time they shared two kids, three grandkids, amazing friendships, at least four big home moves, financial struggles and windfalls, fights, romance and lots of dancing (Gene got better at the dancing part). One of Barbara's greatest sources of pride was their shared love and commitment to one another through good times and through bad. As Barbara added on many occasions, "they can't all be great times, most of them aren't, that's why you really have to love the person you're with."
Barbara's other source of pride were her children. She gave birth to their daughter Dina in 1967 and their son Greg in 1972. In 1980 Gene and Barbara moved back to the same town they grew up, Rye N.Y., to raise their children. Gene would be the first to say how blessed he was to have a wife that raised the kids, did the bills and planned their social calendar all while he singularly pursued his own career ambitions. Actually, Barbara would be the first to say how lucky Gene was. But Gene would always agree. At the root of this choice was Gene's belief that Barbara was the best parent he could ever imagine, so he was happy to have her take the lead.
Barbara was also a working mother and held jobs between retail and secretarial work for over twenty years, while still driving her kids everywhere, making sure they did their homework and made cheerleader or play practice, still cooked dinner almost every night and never forgot to send every friend a birthday card or start buying Christmas gifts for everyone she knew sometime in July. Barbara watched with tears and immense pride last year as her daughter Dina, a mother herself now, finished graduating the nursing program at the College of the Desert. And Barbara was so vocally proud of Greg's work in television and film that her husband often noted that Warner Brothers didn't need to pay for advertising "with Barbara walking around". Barbara was known anecdotally in Hollywood for the elaborate pillows she would have made for Greg's office celebrating each of his productions. She was making adjustments to the Supergirl pillow from her hospital bed during her most recent stay. But as proud as she was of what her children accomplished, her real source of pride was simply that she had raised "two good people, with good values, who were good parents themselves".
Not surprisingly, it was Barbara's role as grandmother that gave her the most joy. Dina moved to Rancho Mirage four years ago to be closer to her parents while she finished school. Grandma was an incredible inspiration and role model to Dina's girls Hannah and Katie. She loved taking them to school and attending their games and recitals, but was most pleased by their strong minds and independent spirits that she helped foster. Her grandson, Caleb, was born last year and their immediate soulmate connection was an immense source of peace and happiness for both of them as Barbara battled her illness.
Though family was Barbara's first priority, she stayed incredibly involved with her community and church wherever she lived. While living with Gene in both New York and New Jersey she was active in the PTA and served on Boards for the Rye Arts Center, The Monmouth Day Care Center and The Ronald McDonald House. Since moving to the Coachella Valley, she was active on the Palm Springs MAC Board as well as the CVRep.
At the end, Barbara wanted people to know she loved and enjoyed life. She also wanted people to know that her sickness didn't defeat her-- she was grateful for the time she had and the people she got to love and be loved by in return. Her cancer may have overcome her lungs but it somehow grew her heart even more. She was at peace and looked back on her life with amazement and gratitude.
Barbara was preceded in death by her father John, mother Bertha, and brother John. She is survived by her husband Gene, her daughter Dina, son Greg and grandchildren, Hannah Katie and Caleb.
A wake will be held on Wednesday, May 10th 2017 from 4-7 PM at Christ of the Desert Chapel. 73441 Fred Waring Drive. Palm Desert, California 92260. A Memorial mass will be held beginning at 11:30 am on May 11th at Sacred Heart Church in Palm Desert, CA. 43775 Deep Canyon Rd. Palm Desert, CA 92260. Reception to follow.
In lieu of flowers you may make a donation to Ronald McDonald House, or Eisenhower Medical Center Lucy Curci Cancer Center. 39000 Bob Hope Drive, Rancho Mirage, CA 92270, in Barbara's name. More importantly, it's Mother's Day on Sunday and Barbara

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