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“I just learned today (4/23/18) of Mels passing. I am incredibly sorry, Evie, girls, and family. We shared many good times together and also shared...Read More »
1 of 8 | Posted by: Barbara Wixson - Woodland Hills, CA

“I will always remember your smile and laugh,the love that you gave.You will forever be in my thoughts and prayers. ”
2 of 8 | Posted by: Ken Gray - Pipersville, PA

“Mel was great guy with which to play golf! He was calm, friendly and supportive. We miss him at Monterey Country Club! Andy ”
3 of 8 | Posted by: Andy Gilchrist - Palm Desert, CA

“Mel will be missed. A very nice person who always made sure I was sitting with them at various functions and had a ride. Thoughts and prayers to...Read More »
4 of 8 | Posted by: Linda Forrette - Medford, OR

“Whether it was seeing Mel driving around the clubhouse, or riding with him on the course, he always had that wonderful smile on his face............Read More »
5 of 8 | Posted by: Wally Glass - Palm Desert, CA

“My primary memories of Mel will always be his love, compassion and consideration. The love for Evie, his daughters and extended family was evident...Read More »
6 of 8 | Posted by: Tom Gray - Pipersville, PA

“God has placed a wonderful spirit inside Uncle Mel that has been shared with each of us. We are fortunate to have been the recipient of his love and...Read More »
7 of 8 | Posted by: Larry Gray - Sewickley, PA

“Mel was a great friend, we had a lot of fun on the golf course with many laugh's We all miss him! It is always difficult to loose the good ones, Mel...Read More »
8 of 8 | Posted by: John Dearey - Palm Desert, CA


Melvin M. Gray, Jr was born in St. Louis, Missouri on November 12, 1929. He passed away peacefully in Palm Desert after a brief illness, with his wife and daughters at his side, on December 10, 2015.

Mel will be remembered for the gentle and unending love he bestowed on his wife and children, and for the contagious laughter he always shared with his family and friends. He is survived by his wife, Evie, his 5 daughters, Terri Filson and her husband Paul, Sue McMahon and her husband Mike, Jane Forrette, Rainey Gray-Gross, and Patti Crowder, as well as his brothers Bob Gray and his wife Sally and Tom Gray and his wife Flora. He was so loved and will be missed by his 8 grandchildren and 4 great-grandchildren. He was preceded in death by his son Richard and his parents Melvin and Mary Gray of Oakland, Ca.

Mel was raised in Oakland, California and graduated from St. Mary's College in Moraga, Ca. Upon graduation he served his country as an officer in the U.S. Marine Corps. He and Evie married on October 24, 1953. They raised their 6 children in Northern California making lifelong friends while sharing with their children a love of the outdoors, tennis, and swimming. He enjoyed a career of 38 years at the American Brass and Iron Foundry in Oakland and spent many of those years as Director of Sales and Marketing participating in the development and diversification of the business. Upon retirement in 1993 he and Evie spent a wonderful 10 years in the Sierra Nevada enjoying the town and people of Arnold and seriously pursuing his passions of golf, nature, and travel. In 2003 they again followed their dream and moved to the desert where they explored the golf and natural beauty of the Palm Desert area. Mel and Evie were members of the Monterey Country Club where they met and enjoyed many wonderful friends and where Mel spent many thoroughly happy days playing golf with his buddies. He still had the "sweet swing" his business friends remembered and to his last days on the course, just weeks before his death, he enjoyed the nickname of "Down the Middle Mel".

Our hearts are broken at our loss but we pray he is together with his son until we meet again. We will honor his memory at a Memorial Mass, with reception to follow, on January 8th at 10:00AM at Sacred Heart Catholic Church, 43775 Deep Canyon Road, Palm Desert California 92260.